From a distance, it appeared that I was living every girl’s Disney fairy-tale life. I married the very cute, yet somewhat mysterious high school bad boy who was 3 years my senior. We had two children together, a boy and then a girl. We bought property and then built the house of our dreams together. We had two dogs, one cat, 4 ferrets, 2 motorcycles (his and mine) and two jet skis (his and mine). We started and then built a very successful auto repair business with multiple locations and we vacationed every winter with and without our kids. People who didn’t know us well would think that we had it ALL, but our friends and family were all watching from a safe distance waiting for the big explosion.
I was only 16 when I began that chapter in my life. Before then I had been a very shy and introverted teenager who was at first shocked, then proud to have captured the attention of this man. But as the dust settled, and we got married, I threw myself into being the best wife and then best mom that I could. The best that is, based on what little I knew at that point in my life.
In hindsight, I can see how the breakdown in our marriage was just as much my fault as his, but at the time I was convinced that not one ounce of blame belonged resting on my shoulders. I really thought I did everything I could to make him happy, not realizing that was a big part of the problem.
Single again, I can remember being in a constant state of anxiety not knowing how I was going to even pay my mortgage every month let alone all of the utilities, food and other daily living expenses. And yes, it was hard to raise and financially support an 8 & 12 year old on my own, but I thought it was better to set an example for them as a happy singe person, than have them witness the daily dysfunctionality of our marriage. I can vividly remember the day when I realized that if things didn’t change, they would both wind up in similar relationships and I wanted more for them than that. We both wanted more for them than that.
“SUCCESS comes by choosing what you want most over what you want now.”
The next chapter in my life was all about reinvention and finding clear direction. I was 36 and it was time for me to figure out that childhood question, “What do you want to do when you grow up Christie?” Little did I know that it would take me a long time to figure out that answer?
Years later I can look back and see how every aspect of it all, both the good and the bad, created the perfect foundation for who I am now. I developed strength and determination to be a creator and leader rather than a follower. I did not have the luxury of being comfortable in a mediocre life; I had to work hard every day, week, month to do more than just to pay the bills. I wanted to do more than just get by. I wanted to create a multiple six figure business so I took actions to make that happen. I became an avid learner and consumer of the teachings of the best experts in the industry. I’ve had dozens of mentors, coaches, advisors and teachers. I developed and then created a duplicable system to help others share their mastery and message to their ideal audience so that they too can make a bigger impact and help more people in less time and make more money.
I used to have a “block” about money. But, I now BELIEVE that the more money I make, the more people I can help and the more time I have to spend with my family, my adorable granddaughter and with my friends riding in the wind on our motorcycles.
I hope you’ll let me help you discover and then implement the same principles. YOU DESERVE IT!!!
Hugs and Blessings,
It was during Christie’s journey when she was inspired to create a brand new business called the Dynamic Professional Women’s Network, Inc., better known as DPWN, which is an industry exclusive networking organization designed to help women create partnerships with each other to generate ideas, alliances, and revenues within a structured referral generating format. She never intended to start that business to replace the job she was in. Her intentions were only to create a better way to get new customers for that job. But she recognized the value of relationship networking instead of traditional networking activities and she saw the possibility of achieving more success by uniting a small team of powerful, like-minded business women who would invest in helping her as she helped them. And it worked!
A few years later, she transitioned out of her “JOB” to better manage the direction and growth of the organization. There are now referral chapters in many states, along with ever expanding teams of national and international members who meet virtually every month. She then launched a publishing division of the organization as a resource for her members to share their stories so that they could leverage author status and gain increased exposure and credibility for their businesses by participating in one of her Overcoming Mediocrity anthology books or by publishing their own solo-books. Christie also just recently just started a not-for-profit organization in an effort to help other single moms who are going through a temporary life transition, just like she went through, but can’t get help by any other traditional means.
In addition to working diligently to ensure the success of the Dynamic Professional Women’s Network, DPWN Publishing and the DPWN Angel Foundation, Christie is a past Council Member of the Executives Breakfast Club, served two terms as a Board Director of the Carol Stream Chamber of Commerce, received a 2008 Special Judge’s Recognition for the Citizen of the Year award in Carol Stream, in 2009 was awarded a Distinguished Woman of Business Award from American Family Insurance with great pleasure and received her highest honors by being recognized as an Influential Women in Business in 2009 by the Daily Herald Business Ledger and the National Association of Women Business Owners (NAWBO), in 2010 with an Entrepreneurial Excellence Award and in 2015 with a Kane County Women of Distinction Award by Shaw Media.
Christie Ruffino simply embodies everything a leader should be: wise, humble, giving, encouraging, an ongoing learner, a mentor, and a person who provides extraordinary value to the lives of everyone she touches. In Treasured Tribes she taps into the lessons she has learned and shares with us how we can also accomplish that which we desire; more than we might previously have thought possible. Study this book, apply her wisdom, and watch how you begin to greatly increase and expand the value you provide to others. Oh, and for the record…I would belong to any tribe that Christie is leading!
Bob Burg, coauthor of The Go-Giver and author of Endless Referrals
A great resource for those who want to have a solid understanding of effective networking. From beginners to more experienced entrepreneurs, author Christie Ruffino, gives great examples of what networking is and is not. Not only does Christie show what not to do, she shares examples of how to get the most of every networking opportunity available. An easy read. Fast, to the point and entertaining. A nice addition to any woman’s professional book library.
Kathleen Gage, Online Marketing Strategist and Product Creation Specialist